‘Empathy is about standing in someone else ‘s shoes, feeling with his or her heart, seeing with his or her eyes”.
“Reflection is the means of processing thoughts and feelings about an activity, incident, or day. It gives us a chance to come to terms with our thoughts and feelings surrounding it”
People who understand how to watch, listen and observe the actions and emotions of those around them are often perceived as the most successful in life. A conscious alignment of one’s self with others starts with the development of empathy in the early years.
In the early years of life from age two to seven, young children are naturally ego-centric and are very much inclined to think mostly about themselves and their immediate needs. They are not yet ready to consider the needs and feelings of others.
Developing a sense of empathy is an important developmental process for young children. It is at the heart of good relationships, and it begins with valuing others and their perspectives.
Teaching empathy might sound strange if you think of it as an inborn fixed trait. We often think of empathy as an attribute that some people are born with naturally, and others lack. But empathy is not an all-or-nothing proposition. It is not something that unfolds automatically, in every situation. It is not even a single ability or skill.
Researchers (Decety and Cowell 2014) have argued, that ‘empathy’ has become a catch-all term for at least three distinct processes:
Therefore, parents and teachers can cultivate empathy in their children by showing their children how to be empathetic and talking about why it is important.
Learning empathy is like learning a language or a sport, it requires practice and guidance. It has a ripple effect when practised because it becomes a habit that is beneficial for your child’s future thinking.
When you communicate to others your understanding of their point of view with respect to their experience, behaviours and feelings, you teach your children the meaning of empathy. This can be done by:
Social learning is very powerful in making your children learn empathy. It will become a reflex that will go a long way, to support a child during their own life experiences. Helping young children to develop a strong sense of empathy is beneficial because:
Empathetic adults may have:
Empathy challenges your thinking and your emotional connection. It also showcases that you can be understood and that you do not stand alone.
If you need guidance to teach your children to become empathetic, getting the support from a counsellor will assist you to teach yourself and your children this lifelong trait. These traits of empathy promote peace, which is something our children, the future world leaders, are the custodians of. This is because:
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